Betrayal Trauma
Common Recovery Terms and Concepts
As you begin your road to healing and recovery, you may hear some words or phrases you are not familiar with and have no idea
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Why Setting Boundaries is Important in Recovery from Betrayal Trauma
I grew up in a small midwest community where neighborhoods existed without fences. It was common practice to leave car doors and front doors unlocked,
Divorce
How to Handle Loss After Betrayal and Divorce
I’d like to take an aspect of healing and share some thoughts that I hope will help you to feel less judgement for yourself in
Emotions
Betrayal Trauma Stages of Grief
When you discover the sexual betrayal of a spouse, it plunges you into pain, loss and grief. You may experiences these betrayal trauma stages of grief.
Analogies
Modern Day Pioneer Women: Survivors of Marital Infidelity
There is a group of pioneer women among us for whom I have grown to have deep respect and compassion. Sadly, these are the women
Analogies
Cleaving to God Above All Else
A story of rock climbing and safety in marriage Let’s talk about rock climbing. I’ve never been a professional rock climber, but some of the
Analogies
Anger Volcano Analogy
Within the base of a volcano, lava swirls, sometimes bubbling and popping, but generally remaining at the same level. This swirling lava is used to
D-Day
How should a wife respond to discovering her husband has been viewing pornography?
When discovering your husband has been using pornography…(Otherwise known as “When you get hit by a truck…”) Scream! When an individual is hit by a
Analogies
God Triangle – Arm of God vs. Arm of Flesh
This analogy illustrates the importance of reliance upon God, rather than relying on the arm of flesh. Imagine a triangle, with equal sides, with Heavenly
Analogies
The Cracked Foundation and the Sledge Hammer: How to fix a broken marriage
As I have grown to understand the Patriarchal Order and how it relates to the repair of damaged relationships, another story comes to mind. This
Analogies
Double Burn Victim Scenario
It is not uncommon for me to work with a couple who is experiencing what I call the Double Burn Victim Scenario. Imagine two people
Analogies
Shaken Pop Bottle Syndrome
When women first come into WORTH, for many it is the first time they are facing the trauma of betrayal of their loved one. Some
Analogies
Pioneer Woman Mode and Packing Your Wagon
Pioneer Woman ModePioneer Woman mode embodies the sacrifice that Mormon Utah Pioneer women made. These women were thrust from their homes, often with their children
Analogies
Parable of the Southern Belle
This story could take place anywhere, but it works best for me if I imagine a father sitting on the front porch of his plantation style home
Myths and Truths
25 Myths About Pornography and Sexual Addiction
*This list was originally created to assist bishops understand pornography addiction and how it affects both spouses. It can be used and adapted to help
Analogies
Hit by a Truck Analogy
We use an analogy of being hit by a truck to illustrate what a woman experiences and her healing process, upon discovering of, or a
Analogies
Barnacle Self-Care Analogy
When an individual discovers that their spouse has been viewing pornography or acting out with sexual misconduct, they often experience betrayal trauma. They may struggle
Self-Care
Stories of Hope – T.R.’s Story
My husband confessed to me that he had a pornography problem about a year into our marriage, after a temple recommend interview with our bishop.
Michelle's Story
Stories of Hope – Michelle’s Story
In 2003, I discovered that my husband of two years was addicted to pornography. It was a heartbreaking time, filled with a lot of shame
D-Day
Stories of Hope – Kristin’s Story
THERE IS HOPE! Prior to getting married, pornography was just something I heard people talk about in conference or other church meetings. It was something
D-Day
Stories of Hope – Emily’s Story
D-day was just over two years ago. My husband and I had planned to go to the temple that morning, but instead he woke me
C.C.'s Story
Stories of Hope – C.C.’s Story
YOU CAN DO THIS! Shortly after the birth of my first child, I learned that my husband struggled with an addiction, that led to him
A Sister of WORTH
Stories of Hope – A Sister of WORTH
When D-Day hit, I was shocked. I was, as we put it in WORTH group, hit by a truck. I desperately studied and poured myself
Ashleigh's Story
Stories of Hope – Ashleigh’s Story
My story of hope starts when I was young. I am a survivor of sexual abuse. I never received the help that I needed as
Anna's Story
Stories of Hope – Anna’s Story
My need for recovery and healing began on my wedding night. I found out my husband who I had just given all my heart and
Analogies
Lust Addiction – Tree Analogy
( from www.RowboatandMarbles.org by Andrew) Imagine a tree with deep roots running into the ground. The Roots: The base of the tree and it’s roots
